Middle school muddle: Maddening mistakes along the way
Liz Willen writes High School Hustle, about the high school admissions process, but her younger son has joined his brother in middle school, thus, this post.
One day, I will be a recovering middle school parent. In the meantime, I find myself either losing my temper or shaking my head and laughing at the various mishaps that accompany middle-school independence.
In my household, it began last week with the eighth-grader’s wallet — lost, lost! — along with the MetroCard and cash inside.
Recovered later under a chair.
Later in the week, a language-arts notebook crisis: an entry worked on for hours the night before gone, gone! A mad scramble, shouting, searching. The notebook turns up several hours later (too late for the morning commute), mistakenly placed inside another backpack. The sixth-grader is late for school.
All is well for at least a day, until mysteriously the eighth-grader’s wallet disappears — again! “I think I was pickpocketed,” he explains earnestly.
We talk about being more careful on the subway. He prepares to ask his school for another MetroCard when the call comes in: “We found your son’s wallet with MetroCard and cash inside on the floor,” a school aide says.
A friend’s seventh-grader keeps coming home with absolutely everything in his backpack. When she wondered why he couldn’t put anything away, he pointed out that he can no longer use his locker. Why? Because the food he left inside it a week earlier inspired a roach invasion, and he can’t bear to open it up.
Another friend says her child brings home nothing but a few scraps of paper. What about the planner? What planner?
As parents, we can simply stop bugging them and let our middle schoolers rise and fall on their own. Instead, most of us are once again making lists and begging our children to check them off and remember what they need — and don’t need — every day.
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